Let’s Bridge the Generation Gap

Let’s Bridge the Generation Gap

Let’s Bridge the Generation Gap 

Miss Iqra Khan

 

In my previous blog I wrote about generation gap and its causes by discussing technology revolution, influence of virtual world, false assumptions, communication gap etc. In this blog I suggest possible ways to bridge this gap between parents and children.

 

After a couple of rigid and harsh interactions like the one I described in the beginning of my previous blog (Generation gap and its causes ) the youth develops a feeling of being misunderstood or rather not understood at all. This would eventually lead towards loss of open communication as the youth would be reluctant to open up in front of parents.

As a protagonist of younger generation, I believe the elder generation needs to be more flexible and rational as they have an upper hand in the whole situation. They should reflect upon communication with children that ends up in anger with a deadlock. If your son or daughter is silent don’t consider it agreement try to probe with love and care to find out the details.

Listening, comprehending and then responding would actually improve the communication. Impulsiveness, false assumptions, rigid remarks and strictness only create strains in relationships.

Parents must recognize their children’s passion and give them an ear when they are willing to pursue anything. Parents should let their children’s creativity flourish and support them to chase their ideas. Parents should appreciate little things. Take pride in youth. Appreciate publicly, correct personally.

This is important because what may look like a fantasy to parents might be producing seismic vibrations of energy in your child’s mind. It is important for parents not to suffocate that energy of their children.

I do acknowledge the stress of parenting and handling young generation like ours. It’s not a piece of cake. Majority of elder generation is oblivious to much of the dynamics of 21st century.  However, spending quality time in light mood with children will help to develop comfort between both generations.

Youth must also respect their parents as the most sincere relationship in life. They should also appreciate parents’ efforts for their children. Youth should restrict over use of internet and gadgets and family should have regular meals together. Parents should discuss matters with their children and their opinion should be valued. This will increase maturity in youth.

 

Youth should limit overuse of internet and gadgets

It is important for parents and youth to understand challenges of both sides followed by making efforts to empathize each other’s perspective. The bridging of generation gap depends on the flexibility, patience and willingness to understand each other’s views and beliefs for a successful and complacent future.  

 

Miss Iqra Khan is a student of a medical university in Islamabad. 

For comments please write to crvoices@gmail.com

Picture credit: Featured image: Pixabay. Cell phone pic: Tracy Le Blanc

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Let’s encourage learning… not rattafication

Let’s encourage learning… not rattafication

Iqra Khan

If you want that education brings a change in you and you want to be considered a learned person then you must start learning instead of merely rattafication or cramming, which is a mindless memorization of facts and figures just to score grades in exams.

Learning involves gaining knowledge or skills by focusing and understanding. Practical education is also key for learning.  Experimentation, planning methods and processing of whatever you study enables you to learn. If you just read and memorize you end up with scattered information in your brain which is dull and boring.

On the contrary, learning inspires you to create and information is organised and effective. Learning makes information meaningful. I personally believe that learning is better and important. One of my favorite quotes is :

I don’t like studying. I hate studying.  I like learning.  Learning is beautiful!

Now connecting this to our society we see education system is predominantly focusing on memorizing since forever. To the extent that if you ask a little kid about his education it would be a big turn off for him. He or she would correlate his education as lethargic, torpid and above all monotonous. Basically our education and teaching systems are lacking variety and interest. Students are focused not to learn and improvise but to gain marks and grades. This, I think, is an unhealthy and dreary way to gain ” knowledge”. In our system marks or grades are where the story begins and ends. Conventional teaching methods contribute to this drawback.

We must learn from other nations such as Finland. They don’t focus and teach students to pass ‘exam’ rather prepare them to learn and experiment. You will be surprised to know that there isn’t any examination or testing in Finland’s schools especially in the early years of school. All because they focus on “learning”.

In our society students are threatened to score up to the mark otherwise they won’t be considered intelligent enough. Let me make it clear that knowledge doesn’t come with fear but with interest. 

At the end, I hereby proclaim that if we don’t make our education and teaching system interesting and learning oriented I am afraid we may fail as a nation. The government of Imran Khan must focus on education reforms and their execution to change the future of country. 

Ms Iqra Khan is a student of Medical University in Islamabad, Pakistan. Comments can be sent crvoices@gmail.com

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Innocence Lost in Poverty

Innocence Lost in Poverty

Iqra Khan

On Eid day I recalled a heart touching incident that would remain in me forever. A little girl of around  5 year age was begging in Saddar bazaar, Rawalpindi. I watched her keenly as she was roaming with a ‘kashkol‘ (a begging bowl) in her hand. The kashkol had few coins in it.

What came next was shocking and unexpected from a beggar, let alone a 5 year old beggar. As I was passing by, my eyes followed her cute hands putting all those coins in a charity box stating chanda bara -e- tameer- e –masjid (contribution for construction of a mosque).

She was so innocent, so pure and real in her gesture that I was stunned and speechless. Many people were passing by. Hardly anyone noticed her. She did not even need that attention but she stole my heart in that very moment. 

Today, while celebrating Eid I was thinking about that girl. How did she celebrate her Eid? And then there was a trail of questions. 

  • If a poor child can be so selfless, why can’t we be? Why can’t we abandon any of our luxuries and help poor with basic necessities of life?
  • If a child can be caring, why don’t we care about sensitive hearts and feelings of street children. Why can’t we just be nice to them rather than scolding them.  After all they are children. Financial help isn’t always the answer.
  • When would we stop looking down upon poor people. The ones who spend the supposedly happiest of days in miseries?
  • Why was that cute girl on the road for begging? Poverty or abduction by begging mafia?
  • If poverty was the reason, why our government failed to address, at least the child poverty?
  • If kidnapping and begging mafia was the reason, why police and other authorities can’t take actions against them?

I don’t have answers at the moment but I am concerned that millions of such children need immediate attention. Prime Minister Imran Khan talked about street children in his inaugural speech. The results are awaited. The change is awaited.  

Ms Iqra Khan is a student of a Medical University in Islamabad, Pakistan. Comments can be sent crvoices@gmail.com

 

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Heavy bags break children’s backs

Heavy bags break children’s backs

By Diya Aftab

Education and children issues are never a top priority during and after election in our country. I would still like to share my views on one major problem, rarely discussed in education sector.  Somebody should listen.

School bags in our country are so heavy that we – the students – feel like carrying sacks full of bricks on our shoulders.  Such heavy bags cause many problems for children. Such as dizziness, headache, shoulder, neck, and back pains as well as ‘scoliosis’- the abnormal curve of spinal cord resulting in permanent back pain. 

I consider it a punishment for innocent children who do not commit any crime.

Most of the private schools nowadays proudly follow Cambridge and Oxford syllabus but why don’t they follow their standard of school bags? 

Many countries have addressed this problem. These countries are United Kingdom, Ireland, California, and New Jersey in United States of America, Sri Lanka, India and China. Some have set a limit of bag weight not more than 10 percent of the body weight.

However, in Pakistan there is no law against this problem. My parents and others have discussed the issue with management of schools but all fell on deaf ears.

Political parties and government should look into this problem seriously. Schools must have cupboard arranged for books so that students don’t carry heavy bags. And in this age of digital advancement there must be an out of box solution to address the issue of heavy bags.

 

Diya Aftab is a student of class seven in Islamabad, Pakistan.  Send your comments to crvoices@gmail.com. 

 

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Parents and careers of children

Parents and careers of children

Dua Aftab

As students approach the end of grade 8, discussions are entering the final stage of subject selection for grade 9/10, O level or IGCSE. Parents often ask their children to choose doctor, engineer, pilot etc as their profession or to pick sciences and computers as their subjects. Many children have different ideas but since they are kids, they are usually bound to accept parents’ decisions.

Subsequently, the children work hard day and night to make their parents happy, fighting along a lot of stress and anxiety of their studies. Children might be looking happy but we don’t know if that is the reality. This is not good. Parents need to guide children with care.

Many parents have rigid ideas that doctor, engineer, lawyer, pilot, etc. are the only best professions. The question is “why are they the most preferred professions?  Because they bring fame? Or they are good source of earning? Ok lets say…a child becomes a successful person following the choice of parents and seems to be happy as well, deep inside his or her  heart  might not be happy. This can impact their mental health.  S/he might carry regrets for not picking subjects and profession of his or her own choice. This would neither be beneficial for parents nor for the children.

So parents, in that case would you be happy?

Children also have their rights just like others. They should get a chance to express their desires and feelings without pressure. They shouldn’t be forced to choose typical professions or subjects against their will.

No one else can change this practice except the parents.

I don’t mean that kids should decide everything on their own. The views of parents are very important. It’s better to have an open and friendly discussion between parents and children.  Parents should understand the interests and aptitude of their kids to help them consider the subjects. But there shouldn’t be any compulsion.

Dear parents! being a teen myself I would request you all to help your children decide their subjects and careers. And then facilitate them to excel in those subjects. I am sure this would eventually make you and your child very happy.

Dua Aftab is a student of grade 8 in Islamabad, Pakistan. For comments please write to crvoice@gmail.com.

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