Let’s Bridge the Generation Gap

Let’s Bridge the Generation Gap

Let’s Bridge the Generation Gap 

Miss Iqra Khan

 

In my previous blog I wrote about generation gap and its causes by discussing technology revolution, influence of virtual world, false assumptions, communication gap etc. In this blog I suggest possible ways to bridge this gap between parents and children.

 

After a couple of rigid and harsh interactions like the one I described in the beginning of my previous blog (Generation gap and its causes ) the youth develops a feeling of being misunderstood or rather not understood at all. This would eventually lead towards loss of open communication as the youth would be reluctant to open up in front of parents.

As a protagonist of younger generation, I believe the elder generation needs to be more flexible and rational as they have an upper hand in the whole situation. They should reflect upon communication with children that ends up in anger with a deadlock. If your son or daughter is silent don’t consider it agreement try to probe with love and care to find out the details.

Listening, comprehending and then responding would actually improve the communication. Impulsiveness, false assumptions, rigid remarks and strictness only create strains in relationships.

Parents must recognize their children’s passion and give them an ear when they are willing to pursue anything. Parents should let their children’s creativity flourish and support them to chase their ideas. Parents should appreciate little things. Take pride in youth. Appreciate publicly, correct personally.

This is important because what may look like a fantasy to parents might be producing seismic vibrations of energy in your child’s mind. It is important for parents not to suffocate that energy of their children.

I do acknowledge the stress of parenting and handling young generation like ours. It’s not a piece of cake. Majority of elder generation is oblivious to much of the dynamics of 21st century.  However, spending quality time in light mood with children will help to develop comfort between both generations.

Youth must also respect their parents as the most sincere relationship in life. They should also appreciate parents’ efforts for their children. Youth should restrict over use of internet and gadgets and family should have regular meals together. Parents should discuss matters with their children and their opinion should be valued. This will increase maturity in youth.

 

Youth should limit overuse of internet and gadgets

It is important for parents and youth to understand challenges of both sides followed by making efforts to empathize each other’s perspective. The bridging of generation gap depends on the flexibility, patience and willingness to understand each other’s views and beliefs for a successful and complacent future.  

 

Miss Iqra Khan is a student of a medical university in Islamabad. 

For comments please write to crvoices@gmail.com

Picture credit: Featured image: Pixabay. Cell phone pic: Tracy Le Blanc

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Generation gap and its causes

Generation gap and its causes

Generation gap and its causes

Miss Iqra Khan

 

“I am stressed out” said 14 years old Mira as she returned from school.

 “Why are you stressed out?” her mother asked promptly. 

 “Because I don’t think I am gona be as amazing as my friends”. Mira responded in a submissive tone.

“Oh please Mira don’t be stupid. You’re a grown up girl and we have provided you the best of everything.  We don’t expect this from you. Get ready for lunch.”

 

And this is how it goes on. The reason of such lack of understanding between parents and youth is generation gap. Generation gap is gap of an era. It counts differences in attitudes, beliefs, thinking and perceptions between two generations. 

The generation gap blocks the actual meaning and essence of words being delivered.  I think following are the major causes of generation gap:

  • Difference of priorities: I mean ultimate goals and milestones set by both generations, which they really look forward to. What parents want for their children is often different from children’s will. 
  • Increased consciousness of today’s youth: Youth is well aware of their surroundings and world in general. That’s why they tend to be more independent. Views of elders are thus, considered petty and old school by youngsters. Whereas, parents consider youth as stupid and immature for their choices.
  • Technology revolution: Everyone is aware about rapid technological advancement in this century. Youth live with this technology while most of the elder generation is oblivious to such developments. This is one of the major causes of generation gap.  
  • Influence of virtual world: Due to internet overuse youth begin to live in a virtual world, away from ground realities of the real world. This is one of the reasons that youth find it difficult to relate  with elders. This situation annoys our parents.
  • False assumptions: On the one hand parents find it difficult to convey their concerns while on the other hand youth finds it difficult to persuade parents. The situation leads to development of false assumptions. Unsettled assumptions enhance the generation gap.  
  • Comparisons/competition: This is an issue since long. Comparisons made with other children and youth create jealousy and competition causes loss of individuality. Lack of encouragement from elders further deepen the distances.
  • Independent mindset : As mentioned earlier, young generation really look for freedom and self-regulating lifestyle. Feeling of being controlled creates rage and aggression.
  • Lack of acceptance and appreciation: Youth complains about lack of appreciation by elders. When youth is appreciated by elders, it opens up their hearts and they feel encouraged. Psychologically proven, public appreciations boosts confidence and  renders differences.
  • Lack of communication: All the above mentioned reasons eventually create communication barriers between young and old generation. 

 

My next blog on www.crvoices.com will suggest how to address the generation gap. 

 

Miss Iqra Khan is a student of a medical university in Islamabad. 

For comments please write to crvoices@gmail.com

Picture credit: Pixabay

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Let’s encourage learning… not rattafication

Let’s encourage learning… not rattafication

Iqra Khan

If you want that education brings a change in you and you want to be considered a learned person then you must start learning instead of merely rattafication or cramming, which is a mindless memorization of facts and figures just to score grades in exams.

Learning involves gaining knowledge or skills by focusing and understanding. Practical education is also key for learning.  Experimentation, planning methods and processing of whatever you study enables you to learn. If you just read and memorize you end up with scattered information in your brain which is dull and boring.

On the contrary, learning inspires you to create and information is organised and effective. Learning makes information meaningful. I personally believe that learning is better and important. One of my favorite quotes is :

I don’t like studying. I hate studying.  I like learning.  Learning is beautiful!

Now connecting this to our society we see education system is predominantly focusing on memorizing since forever. To the extent that if you ask a little kid about his education it would be a big turn off for him. He or she would correlate his education as lethargic, torpid and above all monotonous. Basically our education and teaching systems are lacking variety and interest. Students are focused not to learn and improvise but to gain marks and grades. This, I think, is an unhealthy and dreary way to gain ” knowledge”. In our system marks or grades are where the story begins and ends. Conventional teaching methods contribute to this drawback.

We must learn from other nations such as Finland. They don’t focus and teach students to pass ‘exam’ rather prepare them to learn and experiment. You will be surprised to know that there isn’t any examination or testing in Finland’s schools especially in the early years of school. All because they focus on “learning”.

In our society students are threatened to score up to the mark otherwise they won’t be considered intelligent enough. Let me make it clear that knowledge doesn’t come with fear but with interest. 

At the end, I hereby proclaim that if we don’t make our education and teaching system interesting and learning oriented I am afraid we may fail as a nation. The government of Imran Khan must focus on education reforms and their execution to change the future of country. 

Ms Iqra Khan is a student of Medical University in Islamabad, Pakistan. Comments can be sent crvoices@gmail.com

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Innocence Lost in Poverty

Innocence Lost in Poverty

Iqra Khan

On Eid day I recalled a heart touching incident that would remain in me forever. A little girl of around  5 year age was begging in Saddar bazaar, Rawalpindi. I watched her keenly as she was roaming with a ‘kashkol‘ (a begging bowl) in her hand. The kashkol had few coins in it.

What came next was shocking and unexpected from a beggar, let alone a 5 year old beggar. As I was passing by, my eyes followed her cute hands putting all those coins in a charity box stating chanda bara -e- tameer- e –masjid (contribution for construction of a mosque).

She was so innocent, so pure and real in her gesture that I was stunned and speechless. Many people were passing by. Hardly anyone noticed her. She did not even need that attention but she stole my heart in that very moment. 

Today, while celebrating Eid I was thinking about that girl. How did she celebrate her Eid? And then there was a trail of questions. 

  • If a poor child can be so selfless, why can’t we be? Why can’t we abandon any of our luxuries and help poor with basic necessities of life?
  • If a child can be caring, why don’t we care about sensitive hearts and feelings of street children. Why can’t we just be nice to them rather than scolding them.  After all they are children. Financial help isn’t always the answer.
  • When would we stop looking down upon poor people. The ones who spend the supposedly happiest of days in miseries?
  • Why was that cute girl on the road for begging? Poverty or abduction by begging mafia?
  • If poverty was the reason, why our government failed to address, at least the child poverty?
  • If kidnapping and begging mafia was the reason, why police and other authorities can’t take actions against them?

I don’t have answers at the moment but I am concerned that millions of such children need immediate attention. Prime Minister Imran Khan talked about street children in his inaugural speech. The results are awaited. The change is awaited.  

Ms Iqra Khan is a student of a Medical University in Islamabad, Pakistan. Comments can be sent crvoices@gmail.com

 

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